We know this is a stressful time, we hope that our resources are able to bring some comfort in this unstable time. We are experiencing this together!
Getting the community to come together can take a lot of effort, but it's okay to start small. Start up conversations with those interested in similar topics as you are. Get friends together to game plan how you are able to support each other in times of need, so that you have proper expectations of what's available for you, and what you're available to give. You can even decide if you want to get together and gather all your own friends to do acts of service for the community. This can look like anything, picking up trash at a park, to donating clothes to the homeless shelter. When getting rid of furniture of working appliances, ask around your community to see if someone was thinking about getting one, but couldn't afford it. It just takes putting your awesome thoughts into action, to really accomplish something amazing together!
Building trust is going to look different for everyone, because we have all experienced our own traumas. To respect that, we adivse that you find trust in your own set our requirements, but we do have some suggestions. Trust is an important component of any community, and here we are trying to find what we can do with the resources we're given. So build trust in small acts first, and make sure you are doing it with the right intentions. Trust may not always come from acts of kindness and that is okay.
When trusting people look for truthfulness, honesty, and compassion. You want to make sure they are doing the best to be a caring and reasonable individual. We know as humans we all make mistakes, but it is about what they do when they realize their misdoings that really impact their personality. Look out for grooming, manipulation, and other tactics to build false trust.
Finding the people in your community is awesome! But it's important to come up with rules or ethics that you will all agree to stand by. This shouldn't look like a constriction on expression or individual's action; however, it should set a principle for what you all agree on upholding in values.
You can set these values, and re-evaluate them when times call for it. We may think were all on the same page, but this is an extra safety boundary of what you expect from one another. In times of crisis we have to support one another through it, because we are eachother's person/people. We have the compassion to love and take care of our community. So lets make it happen!
Finding ways to communicate is important, but making sure you are listening with intentions of learning, and not responding to the stories told. Sometimes the people around us are telling us stories we can relate to, but it is still not always our place to say it. We know that there are other factors that determine experience of a situation. Oppression, as well as our unique way of understanding information, can impact our experience. This makes it very important for us to discuss our experiences but not to compare to one another. We can also achieve this by just supporting people with our presence and other support in times of crisis.
It is hard to tell ourselves that in a world where everyone lies, that it may be important to say, and embody the truth. If you find yourself as a truthful and honest person, it will be much easier to build trust. That being said, we know that lying can be a protective measure, or one that adds layered protection in undefined social situations. We have to find it within ourselves to talk to one another about our truths in order to find commonalities in the human condition. A lot of the feelings/experiences we believe are singular to us, are actually that of many; we just find the conversation embarrassing.
It can be very difficult to see the reality of the world and country, in it's place at the current moment. It has become more and more indistinguishable what the facts and truth ultimately are in our everyday news and gossip. Finding ways to, as a community, come to together and analyze the news in hopes of finding the facts, is a better way for us to gather information on whats actually going on outside of our areas. It's important for us to remember that just because we are not affected, in our perception, doesn't mean we aren't. We should also care about those in the areas effected even if we don't know them personally.
Precarious:
“Precarity (also precariousness) is a precarious existence, lacking in predictability, job security, material or psychological welfare. The social class defined by this condition has been termed the precariat.”
Precarity is a good gauge to use when looking at visible and non-visible identities, because we are gauging the level of danger for a given identity based on different situations. While some people may carry identity privileges, it does not take away from their precarious identities, or the impact they may have in someone’s day-to-day life. When discussing identities and power struggles, utilizing the lens of precarity can help us to navigate complex intersectional scenarios.
Equity as a concept differentiates from equality in that it is a way for us to view the necessity of not having equal support for each person, but rather finding the way for everyone to have equal access to the support they may need to meet their basic human needs and have access to the spaces and resources necessary for human spiritual health. A goal of equity is to acknowledge how the trades that we make of our energy for a common goal, may not always look equal, but have similar weight to each person and their ability to contribute. Equity is a large piece to understanding the best ways we can create more accessible spaces, as well as essential to addressing various kinds of power imbalances relating to hierarchies of race, class, citizenship, sexuality, assigned gender status, ability, and more.
First we must understand what kind of systems we are looking at?
Patriarchy has been founded on the preconceived notion to sex differences at birth and assumed placement in breeding or procreation for future generations, and the assumed placement of a labor source or provider. While this notion has been getting very old by this time, we have let it up hold several households and leave many spending years in emotional aguish over their true wants and the systems' need to stay alive. If men are home bodies who take care of the young, as their female partner have a larger corporate jobs that provide for the family you are actively breaking this norm. However, don't misguide your sense of praise for breaking away from the norm. The praise goes to those who also teach their children not to rely on a specific sex or gender to provide for emotional needs etc. There is a lot in this world that caters to the male ideology, but in many ways it dis-serves the male population the most by inappropriate expectations and emotional strangulation. This does not negate that the tole the Patriarchy has put on AFAB people and/or women is unattainable by most, and has caused death, abuse, and manipulation in the name of gender superiority. Sexual domination has always been apart of this historical fantasy, but the patriarchy uses this assumed domination to abuse and silence women all the time. Rape and abuse culture is an egregious act and it's important that we take the energy to deal with our biggest predators in the community.
However our systems journey does not lead us just to Patriarchal Systems, but also Racist Systems that further upheld the white male agenda for power and profits. We saw this throughout the Trans-Atlantic Slave Trade, Fugitive Slave Laws, Emancipation Proclamation, and Jim Crow Laws that have only evolved in their ability to access black communities and gerrymander their counties. Racism has many different ways of manifesting itself in the psychology of white individuals. Racism is something every white person faces, because our environment inherently works for us. It makes sure that we are safe; instead of fearing us and therefore endangering us. Racism and Slavery gave white men with power the ability to control and manipulate the ways in which voting and many other forms of freedom were withheld. Black Communities have faced the most extreme of attacks in our nation's history. It's our job as people today to combat our learned racism and other social systems, so that people can be in this place of freedom with the feeling of actually feeling safe, protected, and free to do so as they please (with reason).
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